When my granddaughters were conceived, I swore I would never miss their births or birthday parties. Until last October when I retired as a university administrator, I simply took leave to do so. Someone once told me that 90 percent of parenting is just showing up. I assume that applies to grand parenting as well.
To protect these precious six year-old babes from the creeps on the Internet, I will use their nicknames with no explanation for meaning. On the left in the picture above is Bean, very creative and athletic- into art, ballet, gymnastics and the Madame Alexander and American Girl Dolls I have given her. She has the sweetest and most polite telephone voice. I think I am talking to an angel. The worst thing she has done at age six is that she and another child spit on a friend. Her mother, First Daughter called, horrified, but in her “I am-organized-planning mode” announced her short term and long term plan. Problem solved. Bean is currently bankrupting her parents by losing teeth.
On the right is Flabbs, four months younger than Bean. Flabbs is very extroverted and left brained. She sang in her school talent show a song from Frozen, not in the world’s best voice, but who cares? She had a stage. When I visited, I asked her to wake her Mommy up to make me a cup of coffee. She informed me, “Mimi, you are perfectly capable of making your own cup of coffee.” Her mother, Princess Daughter, has met her match. Payback is so sweet. Flabbs recently asked where she could go to college to learn to be a tooth fairy. But after watching Zootopia, she now wants to go into law enforcement. Her back up plan is to be a princess. Her mother explained she would need to go to Europe to find a prince. Flabbs said she would but would then move back to Texas to be with her Mommy.
One of the roles I have assumed as their Mimi is the purchase of expensive fashionable clothes. I love to dress them in Lilly Pulitzer and Matilda Jane. I dress them alike which they now love but I know that will change.
I spend my time looking forward to traveling to see these young ladies. They are close cousins and one of the major reasons I retired. I see their mothers who are so close in each of them and it is a joy to watch a generation repeating itself. Nothing I achieved in my professional life or personal life can equate to being a grandmother. My goal is that my granddaughters remember me with fondness, can quote me and tell funny stories about me, and think about me at special moments in their lives.